Tuesday, March 20, 2018

EQ – 5

So what are emotions? How do they differ from feelings? Let’s begin with emotions first. According to Candace B Pert, PhD, both the brain and body are part of the subconscious, faithfully recording and reporting chemical processes that enter our conscious awareness only as we recognize them as emotions. Think of emotions as cellular signals that can be triggered by internal (thoughts) or external (environmental) stimuli and are designed to:

  1. Get your attention
  2. Give you information by connecting the subconscious with the conscious
  3. Give you energy
  4. Motivate you to take appropriate action (if any is needed); otherwise to give you the opportunity to learn something that might be very helpful in the future.
More tomorrow

Monday, March 19, 2018

EQ – 4

JOT behaviors, so called, are examples of low levels of EQ.

J stands for jumping to conclusions
O stands for overreacting
T stands for taking things personally.

These behaviors tend to create conflict, inside an individual and between individuals. As you raise your EQ and work on resolving JOT behaviors, you tend to experience less conflict, which can be seen in the things you say and do that—and that result in more positive outcomes. EQ is not emotions or feelings; it does involve both of them, however, as components. In essence, this involves learning to identify emotions quickly and accurately and manage them effectively, along with an understanding of the difference between emotions and feelings. More next time.

Friday, March 16, 2018

EQ – 3

Daniel J. Goleman, PhD, an early researcher on EQ (his book on EQ came out in the mid-nineties, which was the first time many had even heard the term Emotional Intelligence) has been quoted as saying:  Out-of-control emotions can make smart people stupid. First of all, low levels of EQ tend to correlate with conflict. Studies on Managers in a variety of organizations have shown that very successful managers tended to have high levels of EQ regardless of IQ. Conversely, managers judged to be to be less successful tended to have high IQs but low levels of EQ. Studies in 2006 also showed that Managers were spending about 18% of their time managing employee conflicts. This was twice the percentage reported ten years earlier. More next time.

Thursday, March 15, 2018

EQ – 2

Based on audience questions about EQ, it became clear that there was a great deal of confusion about what EQ even was, what it could do for a person, or how you “get it.” Here’s one working definition: 

Emotional Intelligence involves the ability to know what feels good, what feels bad, and how to get from bad to good in a way that results in positive outcomes.

No surprise, the brain likes and wants to feel good. That’s appropriate. Learning how to feel good in a way that results in positive outcomes, however, is a learning curve. More tomorrow.

Wednesday, March 14, 2018

The Brain and EQ

During a recent Brain Conference there were several questions from the audience about EQ or Emotional Intelligence. Apparently that genre of information is less well known than I thought. And it is worth 80% of a person’s success in life according to the Success Quotient or SQ. That formula reads like this: Your IQ + your EQ = your SQ. IQ and EQ do not contribute equally to your SQ, however. IQ is said to contribute about 20% while EQ contributes 80% if not more. Therefore, most people can be very successful in life based on their level of EQ (and not necessarily based on their IQ). Think of Forrest Gump in the movie by that name. His IQ was likely high 70's or low 80. Most likely his EQ was of the charts. Interestingly, Gump gave his mother all the credit for what he had learned. Which points out that while IQ potentials are inherited (likely from your opposite gender parents), EQ is learned. That's good news! More tomorrow.

Tuesday, March 13, 2018

Brain Neurons

“Common knowledge” has said for some time that the human brain has about 100 billion neurons to say nothing of at least as many glial cells and who know how many of other cells that may not yet have been identified. [Remember that it was only 2015 when researchers discovered that the brain does have an immune system, with immune vessels having been found in all three protective layers (meninges) that surround and protect brain tissue.] There is some emerging evidence that the brain may not contain nearly this many neurons. And the male brain, being larger, may have a couple billion more neurons than the female brain—the consensus previously being that the numbers of neurons were equal in male and female brains with those in the female brain just more tightly packed. If this holds up there will be yet more textbooks that need revision . . .

Monday, March 12, 2018

Aging Paradox, 2

A study of mental health among individuals over 90 was centered in Cilento, Southern Italy and was part of a larger study called CIAO (Cilento Initiative on Aging Outcomes). Lead author Anna Scelzo reported that as expected, the participants who were over age 90 had poorer physical health—but unexpectedly they had a better level of mental health and well-being. They also had a tendency to be stubborn, domineering, and needed a sense of control, “which can be a desirable trait as they are true to their convictions and care less about what others think.” Dr. Dilip Jeste, Distinguished Professor of Psychiatry at the University of California, San Diego, and fellow author, said that the study shows how wisdom and mental well-being can increase with aging even when physical health is declining. He called this phenomenon “the paradox of aging.” The researchers concluded that exceptional longevity was characterized by a balance between acceptance of and grit to overcome adversities along with a positive attitude and close ties to family, religion, and land, providing purpose in life. (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/29229012?inf_contact_key=7df921af9a55fe81332a63c05468787a896427bb70a6bfb29d42e7ce3d139129)