Who Are Your Plus Four?

Identify your Plus Four along with their commonly exhibited behaviors and key characteristics. Did you select them, or did they select you? Do they drain or energize you? Do you want to be like them? Your Plus Four directly impacts who you are and affect how you behave, even when you’re not aware of it. Studies have shown that within about three years, you tend to mimic the behaviors of those with whom you hang out. If you are in relationships in which you are not really helping yourself nor anybody else, you are likely not being the best you can be and, therefore, not being the best you can be to them, either. If they do not encourage and enable you to become a better person, you may need to reduce the amount of time spent with them. And if they are seriously dragging you down, abusing you or encouraging you to abuse yourself (e.g., enabling serious addictive behaviors), you may need to find a healthier and more occurring positive replacement. According to Mark Chernoff, “You will only ever be as great as the people you surround yourself with; so be brave enough to let go of those who keep bringing you down.”