Answer for EQ Question Five

Answer for EQ Question Five ü Evaluate their comments, accept the challenge, and learn the lingo No one brain knows everything. Period. It is impossible! And every brain that falls within the bounds of a relatively normal brain (although I dislike the term “normal” because every brain is different and the word itself just means commonly occurring) can learn new information if he or she chooses to do so. Asking them to keep their opinions to themselves just ensures that I will have no helpful feedback to help me learn and grow (unless they ignore that request). Since I am very clear that my brain doesn’t know everything, I am very comfortable chuckling and saying something like: “Obviously, I don’t know the lingo. However, I’m very willing to learn it and will appreciate any help you can give me.” And then, whether they help me or not, I learn what the lingo means in that genre. In the process, my brain will be stimulated and challenged for the better. Ignoring another person is likely one of the most unkind and damaging things one can do to another human being because it marginalizes them. Would I ever transfer to another venue? I have done so when it became clear that “knowing the lingo” was not the issue; rather the “clique” was unopen to anyone new in the department or to me in particular. Since my brain doesn’t cotton to every brain on the planet, I accept every brain won’t cotton to mine. It is what it is.

EQ Question Five

EQ Question Five When co-workers comment that you obviously are not very smart since you don’t know the lingo, you: 1     Ignore them 2     Ask them to keep their opinions to themselves 3     Transfer to another department 4     Evaluate their comments, accept the challenge, and learn the lingo

Which option represents the highest level of EQ?

Answer for EQ Question Four

Answer for EQ Question Four ü Accept them “as is” and set your own boundaries as needed Note: if the opinions are presented in such a way that they become a danger to others in the group, take appropriate steps to be safe. However, if it is just a different opinion, ask yourself if there is any need for you to argue or press your opinion or even express it. “I often say something like, “That’s an interesting—or different—perspective.” And let it go. Criticizing them or bad-mouthing them to others represents low levels of EQ. It rarely helps them and eventually makes you look bad as others figure “If s/he talks to me about that person the individual probably talks to others about me in a similar way!” So far, free speech is upheld in many countries—although not all. Each person, each citizen, has a right to his or her opinion and to express it—as long as it does not endanger the safety of another person or demean or put-them-down. Therefore, telling them to change in order to be accepted is likely not your job or even your right. I have sometimes observed to the newcomers privately, that since their opinions are so vastly different from those of the group they are trying to attend, they might want to consider whether the conflict is going to be worth it and if it will help them achieve what they want to achieve in the long term. If they ignore that observation and conflict continues to result, I will set my own boundaries and cease to attend the group myself. I choose to avoid placing my brain and body in an environment of conflict and dissention—because it is deleterious to my brain and body and to their health and well-being.

EQ Question Four

EQ Question Four When newcomers with different opinions attend your group, you:

1.   Ignore them and hope they go away       2.   Criticize (or “bad mouth”) them to others       3.   Accept them “as is” and set your own boundaries as needed       4.   Tell them to change in order to be accepted

Which option represents the highest level of EQ?

Answer for EQ Question Three

Answer for  EQ Question Three ü Help the person and also comment about the need to speak louder or slower or more distinctly Laughing at a disability incident is demeaning and unkind to the person and role-models your own lack of empathy. Simply repeating the phrase so the person gets it may help that one incident but does nothing to prevent it happening again (if it is possible to prevent it). Making a comment that suggests the need to speak louder or slower or more distinctly role-models a higher level of EQ. You not only help the person in the present moment but do something to prevent similar reoccurrences in the future and that shows empathy for the person and understanding of how an inability to clearly hear something can prevent the person from participating fully or even accurately. Not everyone will choose to follow your suggestion but you have taking the higher road and some may think about it. It is important HOW you make the suggestion. You might just repeat the phrase and then say to the person: “I will make an effort to speak a little louder (or more slowly, or more distinctly).

EQ Question Three

EQ Question Three When a hearing-impaired person in your group misunderstands a phrase, you:

1. Laugh with the others 2. Ignore the incident 3. Repeat the phrase so the person gets it 4. Help the person and also comment about the need to speak louder or slower or more distinctly

Which option represents the highest level of EQ?

Answer for EQ Question Two

Answer for EQ Question Two ü Successful – a contented person who has what could make you happy. This doesn’t mean that you are not striving for improvement; it means that you do not waste time in regrets or frustration. I think it was Oprah Winfrey that commented how important it is to be happy and thankful for what you have—and this attitude will get you more. If you are unhappy and discontented, you will never have enough. It’s all about mindset. Be grateful for what you have and work on improvement. Yes, life is a mixed experience, but since feelings follow thoughts, thinking ½ your life is a bust will likely overpower the ½ of your life that is good. If your perspective is that you are just a puppet, the tendency is to give up and just go with the flow (or get angry and suppress your immune system) rather than accepting that you can change some things and some you cannot. Figure out which is which and work on what you can change. A position that you deserve much better but can’t get it again concentrates on what you “don’t have” rather than taking steps, even small ones, toward improvement. It also suggests that life or someone “owes” you something and there is no law that says you are owed anything—maybe as a baby and a child¾in adulthood. Be very careful what you agree to, especially in relation to money (e.g., avoid co-signing on loans, avoid giving someone money or things and then expecting it to be repaid.)