Answer for EQ Question Two
ü Successful – a contented person who has what could make you happy.
This doesn’t mean that you are not striving for improvement; it means that you do not waste time in regrets or frustration. I think it was Oprah Winfrey that commented how important it is to be happy and thankful for what you have—and this attitude will get you more. If you are unhappy and discontented, you will never have enough. It’s all about mindset. Be grateful for what you have and work on improvement. Yes, life is a mixed experience, but since feelings follow thoughts, thinking ½ your life is a bust will likely overpower the ½ of your life that is good. If your perspective is that you are just a puppet, the tendency is to give up and just go with the flow (or get angry and suppress your immune system) rather than accepting that you can change some things and some you cannot. Figure out which is which and work on what you can change. A position that you deserve much better but can’t get it again concentrates on what you “don’t have” rather than taking steps, even small ones, toward improvement. It also suggests that life or someone “owes” you something and there is no law that says you are owed anything—maybe as a baby and a child¾in adulthood. Be very careful what you agree to, especially in relation to money (e.g., avoid co-signing on loans, avoid giving someone money or things and then expecting it to be repaid.)