EQ Benefits

High EQ skills in your personal/work life can allow you to: •         Have a difference of opinion and still communicate in affirming ways that minimize conflict •         Build and maintain stable, rewarding, interpersonal relationships •        Reduce negative stress while increasing your health, happiness, success, and maybe even your potential longevity •        Prevent or reduce the risk of conflict in almost any venue—home, school, club, church, work, recreation—and conflict is expensive in terms of both physical and mental health to say nothing of increased stress •        Share your brain’s opinion as honestly and graciously as possible, but also to remain relatively indifferent as to whether your opinion is accepted. This helps you avoid badgering others to embrace your perspective.

EQ & Conflict

Studies have shown that high EQ can decrease the risk of conflict, which is expensive any way you cut it. EQ skills can help prevent or minimize conflict, which occurs everywhere and is very expensive to health, productivity, and longevity. For example:

• In the home conflict contributes to stress, illness, unhappiness, fractured relationships, violence, addictions, divorce, murder . . .

•   In schools and churches conflict burns out personnel, triggers misunderstandings, and derails mission, vision, and service

•   In organizations conflict shuts down genuine creativity and interferes with collaborative efforts and productivity. It also decreases profitability. Studies have shown that managers spend 18% of their time managing employee conflicts (only 9% in 1996)

—US State News; August 19, 2006

Dangling Participles

Dangling participles can be found everywhere, even in Shakespeare’s Hamlet. I find them very funny. Here some examples along with what makes them grammatically incorrect.

Speeding through the tunnel, the station came into view. [The station is not speeding through the tunnel.]

Thrown into the air, the dog raced after the stick. [The dog was not thrown into the air.]

She handed out brownies to the children stored in plastic containers. [Children were not stored in plastic containers.]

Forgetting all about shattered glass, the weather was great at the beach. [The weather was not forgetting about shattered glass.]

Oozing slowly across the floor, Marvin watched the salad dressing. [Marvin was not oozing slowly across the floor.]

Making my bed, the stuffed animals were on the floor. [Animals were not making the bed.]

Wishing for a pony, the farm was a magical place for me. [The farm was not wishing for a pony.]

Benefits of High EQ

High EQ skills in your personal/work life can allow you to:            Have a difference of opinion and still communicate in affirming ways  that minimize conflict           Build and maintain stable, rewarding, interpersonal relationships           Reduce negative stress while increasing your health, happiness, success, and maybe even your potential longevity           Prevent or reduce the risk of conflict in almost any venue—home, school, club, church, work, recreation—and conflict is expensive in terms of both physical and mental health to say nothing of increased stress           Share your brain’s opinion as honestly and graciously as possible, but also to remain relatively indifferent as to whether your opinion is accepted. This helps you avoid badgering others to embrace your perspective.

Success Quotient

In combination, your IQ and your EQ make up your Success Quotient or SQ. The Success Quotient describes one’s overall success based on stereotypical measures—and is believed a factor in health as well as longevity. SQ describes the contribution to your overall success in life of IQ plus EQ. They do not contribute equally, however.

·       IQ contributes about 20 percent

·       EQ contributes about 80 percent 

Work-place studies have shown that successful managers tend to average IQs but high EQ, while less successful managers often have high IQs but low EQ. Top performers in life tend to use both IQ and EQ in harmony, knowing they can raise their IQ to some degree, but that raising their EQ—as there is no ceiling for EQ skills as far as is currently known—is their “ace in the hole” for success personally and professionally. Success, of course, also includes their level of wellness and their potential lifespan.

IQ & EQ

IQ or Intelligence Quotient describes a level of inherited potential academic intelligence. It is a range of mental faculties that you get from your biological parents. It is believed possible to raise one’s IQ from 5 – 30 points, depending on the starting point. EQ or Emotional Intelligence describes a set of learned skills distinct from, but complementary to, academic intelligence (IQ measure). EQ is not “emotions” but rather a method of managing them successfully on a consistent basis. This set of learned skills can assist you in:

1. Identifying what feels good, what feels bad, and how to get from bad to good in a way that results in positive outcomes
2. Recognizing each of the four core emotions (joy, anger, fear, and sadness) quickly and accurately
3. Obtaining the information the emotion is attempting to move from subconscious to conscious awareness
4. Exhibiting actions and behaviors that tend to result in positive outcomes

5. Managing your feelings more effectively

Vehicle-Mind Metaphor

Vehicles create traffic and then traffic impacts vehicles, enhancing or impeding their progress. There seems general agreement that the brain creates the mind and then the mind can impact the brain, even directing it in positive or negative ways. This makes the human brain different from any other type of brains on the planet. Only about 10-15 percent of what at goes on in the “mind” comes to conscious awareness. Estimates are that 70 percent of relational choices and communication in the present reflect your own past, primarily what exists outside of conscious awareness but impacts everything at a subconscious level. Most people want to “let sleeping dogs lie” and prefer not to connect the past with the present (it is far easier to blame others); however, you can only deal effectively with and manage well what you can identify, label, and describe.