Did you realize that when you give the gift of forgiveness to yourself or to others, it’s primarily for you and not for them? Forgiveness can be one of the most difficult concepts to grasp. Even definitions differ. One of the best definitions I’ve heard was attributed to Oprah Winfrey: Forgiveness is to accept the fact that the past can’t change. That definition may also help to explain why forgiveness is one of the most difficult and greatest gifts to give. To refuse to give this gift, you actually give the other individual the power to make you live as if you were still a victim.