Monday, April 21, 2014
It can be difficult to recover from the death of a person you love, especially if it is a drawn-out death. And many people can get :stuck: recalling the funeral or memorial service, putting those pictures in working memory as if it is happening again now. I was speaking with a man whose wife had died five years ago and he was caught in this grieving cycle. During our conversation I recalled the name of David Bandler. You may know his as the father and co-creator of Neuro-Linguistic Programming or NLP. While not minimizing the pain of losing a loved one and of trying to get through the pain of death, he pointed out to individuals that the way in which they view their memories has a great deal to do with successful recovery. Hard as it may be to swallow, he also pointed out that to continue to remain stuck -- instead of healing and enjoying the people who are still alive -- is less than honoring to the memory of their loved one. Doing something to make a difference on this planet, in the name of their loved one, is much more desirable. More tomorrow.