Every human being comes out the proverbial chute with undesirable baggage, often from cellular memories of behaviors exhibited by individuals in their biological line. This gets added to by the events and environments each child and each experiences, by watching how others respond to difficulties, the self-worth and self-esteem issues that can accrue. In any disconnect, it is critical to ask yourself: “What was my contribution to this?” Identify that, take responsibility for what you contributed (and not for what you did not contribute). Be willing to apologize for your contribution and negotiate the issue. Regardless how much you care about the other person, miscommunications occur, especially when you are texting and emailing because there is no visual recruitment of nonverbal body language to accompany the words. More tomorrow.