Some believe that narcissism in adulthood may be the response to anguish from a troubling, difficult, abusive, and inconsistent environment; one in which Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE’s) occur. The healthier and more functional the parent, the healthier and more functional the parenting style is likely to be. For example:
Be consistent, make sure your words and actions match.
Aim for balance, avoid erratic actions/reactions,
unpredictability.
Be calm. Parental anxiety can trigger
insecurity in children.
Be kindly
realistic in terms of praise and criticism. Avoid extremes: lavishing exaggerated praise and/or criticizing
them far too harshly.
Give loving
attention. Negative attention is still attention.
Role model
the behaviors you want to see in the child. Training by example is generally
the most successful style.
The child is not “bad,” but loved, even when behaviors need tweaking.
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