Power of "No"

The power of “no” is poorly understood. It's so poorly understood that I've written an article about it. There is a difference between the ability to use "no" powerfully and a negative mindset. Negativity is an ongoing attitude. NO is a moment of clear choice. It announces, however indirectly, something affirmative about you. Wielded wisely, “no” is an instrument of integrity and a shield against exploitation. It often takes courage to say. It is hard to receive. But setting limits sets us free. If you feel you can’t say no at least to some things, some of the time, then you are not being loved—you are being controlled. No is a shield. Therein lies its power. The ability to say no makes your yes much more meaningful. (Sills, Judith, PhD. “The Power of NO!” P 53-61. Psychology Today, November/December 2013)