For every action there is a reaction. For every plus, there is a minus. You always give up something to get something. Period. Everything you do involves a decision. To decide not to make a decision, not to choose, is in itself a decision. Some of the challenges involve spending more time together than you may have done in the past. This will also surface how each person deals with change—especially unwanted change. Sit down together and draw up some parameters, so each has some alone time. Decide how you will use some of the other chunks of time. Hopefully, especially if you have children, you will agree to eat meals together. Divorce filings have reportedly risen, although one always looks at statistics with a somewhat jaundiced eye because you can tweak them so they say almost anything. One couple reported that after a month of togetherness, they decided they didn’t really even like each other all that much. Too bad. Be really honest with each other and dig to find what was the initial attraction. If it was primarily sexual, that intensity tends to fall off in 12-18 months if not sooner. What do you admire about each other. Anything? Do you want to work learning to know yourself and each other or not?