Siblings: How different are they, 8

Dr. Bita Yadidi has described forgiveness as being willing to let go of the conclusions and assumptions the person has made and simply look at what happened as an experience in my life. Some experiences are good, some not so good. It is what we do with those experiences and the weight or importance we give them that makes the difference over time. When I looked at sibling differences in my family-of-origin as simply an experience in my life—one of many—it was quite simple to forgave family members for their comments. It was just their brain’s opinion—largely based on ignorance and their own issues. I also forgave myself for believing what they said hook line and sinker—for such a long time. “What were you thinking?” I asked myself and had to laugh. If I could learn to do that, I bet you could, too.