Here are a few caveats.
Remember, you forgive others for your health. Failure to forgive yourself and others is harmful to your health.
2. One or both parents might not realize how their comments made parts of your childhood difficult. They may have done the best they knew to do—which does not alter the fact of how they behaviors impacted you.
3. Once you speak aloud to their picture, then let the anger, resentment, bitterness, sadness—whatever—go. Imagine they are rose pedals in the palm of your hand and gently blow them away.
4. Forgive yourself for believing the things they said to and about you—for such a long time. It was only their brain’s opinion, and you are the only person who really knows who you are innately.
5. Enjoy becoming the best “authentic you” possible. You can do it!