Someone told me that dealing with rejection is less painful when one’s Emotional Intelligence or EQ is high. What does that mean?
EQ is not an emotion—it is a set of skills that help you manage your emotions more effectively. It can teach you to be on the lookout for JOT behaviors: Jumping to conclusions, Over-reacting, and Taking things personally. JOT behaviors may be responsible for three-quarters of the conflict experienced in relationships. The antidote for JOT is AAA: Ask questions to avoid jumping to conclusions; Act calmly to minimize over-reacting; and Alter your perceptions to stop taking things personally. (You do not need to ask these questions aloud of yourself; you can ask them silently and internally.) Perhaps you need to avoid specific situations in favor of those that are more accepting. Perhaps you have been trying too hard to “help” others instead of helping yourself. Maybe you need to be more consciously careful of the individuals you become involved with or the situations in which you place yourself. Self-care begins at home.
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